3 Stages to Give Yourself a Chance for Love

Being jointly mindful about how relationships develop gives you a chance at committed love, and you can both relax and explore along the way.

It takes time to get to the point of commitment. Too many leap into commitment too early. It causes heartbreak and disappointment.

Have you done that? Like a fairy tale with a first date and then living happily every after? It’s a fairy tale! The real world is that love takes time. Take each of the three stages to get there.

Stage One – First Dates

This is the exploratory stage. Is there any chemistry? Everything’s very preliminary.

It’s not time yet to be thinking about a possible future together, just checking the other out, and seeing if you’re interested enough for future dates.

Relationship chemistry’s physical, emotional, and spiritual. The physical is often obvious… do you find the person physically attractive? Do you like the eyes, mouth, body type? What about the voice and laugh, even the accent?

How does the person smell to you? What about the sense of touch when you shake hands or even kiss? What about taste?

If a person tastes or smells of smoke, is that a game-changer for you? Some things will never change. Some things will or can change over time, but right now you’re at the stage of first impressions through the five senses.

There is also the emotional and spiritual connection that’s part of early chemistry discovery. How’s the conversation? What do you care about? Do you share similar interests and life views?

Stage Two is the Honeymoon

The Honeymoon’s special. It’s something many couples work to keep aspects of later in their relationships.

You see one another frequently. You have a lot of fun and excitement together as you get to really know one another.

The honeymoon can last for a few months, or up to a year. It ends as you get to recognize the humanity of your partner. Your partner has flaws, and you start to see them. And they yours.

For some, the honeymoon is all they want. They have a kind of addiction to the thrill of the honeymoon.

They break up and move on as the honeymoon phase matures to its close. I call these people 90-Day Wonders.

They’re great for a honeymoon, but lack the emotional stability and maturity to pursue a long-term relationship.

Relationship Commitment is Stage Three

Once the honeymoon with the rose-colored glasses is ending, and you see one another’s lack of perfection, you may try to change one another.

You may struggle over who’s and who’s wrong in situations, beliefs, and attitudes. This can become a power struggle.

If you can get to the point where you accept one another as you are, rather than try to change perceived imperfections, many relationships become stronger and endure.

If not, breakup can happen, or, often worse, staying together and being miserable.

If the decision’s to accept your partner, and vice-versa, the relationship can continue and grow in a healthy way. You’ve given one another a chance at finding love.

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How to Choose Flowers for Your Wedding Anniversary

Flowers are a perfect gift for many occasions. If you’re not aware of what flowers symbolize, picking out flowers for the right occasion can be challenging. Flowers can be given at almost any occasion. Some popular occasions to give flowers are birthdays, anniversary, get well, thank you, holidays, date, and wedding.

Red or pink flowers represent love and passion for one another therefore it’s always safe to gift them on anniversaries. Just like there are specific gifts for each anniversary year; similarly there are specific flowers for each year as well. Today I’m going to focus on wedding anniversary flowers in this post. But you will read about other occasion’s flowers in my future posts as well.

Carnations – 1st Anniversary: First wedding anniversary is a time of celebration. Carnations are traditional flowers used for couple’s first wedding anniversary. These flowers represent young passionate love. Carnations come in a variety of colors, so you can choose the best hue that symbolizes your love.

Cosmos- 2nd Anniversary: By second anniversary couples have formed a thorough understanding of each other with more powerful unique love, and that’s exactly what this beautiful flower represents. The astonishing cosmos are perfect flowers for couples celebrating their wonderful two years together.

Sunflower- 3rd Anniversary: Sunflower represents the marriage of three years which is by now strong, passionate and colorful. The strong stalk of the sunflower symbolizes the strong foundation of marriage. Beautiful yellow petals of the sunflower stand for love and passion. Fresh sunflower bouquets look extremely astonishing and are a clear sign of trust that has been developed between the couple after being together for three years.

Geranium- 4th Anniversary: This colorful and vibrant flower for 4th wedding anniversary is called geranium. It symbolizes happiness and positive emotions. Geranium arrangements are perfect for your 4th anniversary when you and your spouse are comfortable with each other’s habits and have a better understanding.

Daisy – 5th Anniversary: The luminous daisies are perfect gift for the 5th wedding anniversary. This simple but beautiful flower represents hope, loyalty and love which the couple has for each other after sharing all sorts of experiences together for 5 years.

Calla Lily- 6th Anniversary: Calla Lily, an elegant flower symbolizes all the wonderful ways the two have grown over the six years of marriage, developed unique love and became even more attractive.

Freesia- 7th Anniversary: The 7th anniversary flower is called freesia. This beautiful flower also has a pleasant fragrance which has long been used in lotions and soaps. The freesia represents all the appreciation and love you hold for your loving partner and the amazing surprises the future holds for you two.

Lilac- 8th Anniversary: These absolutely stunning flowers are perfect for your eighth wedding anniversary. The white lilac represents first love. So this is the perfect time to remind yourself and your spouse of the day you two met and recall all the beautiful moments and passions you’ve shared together for these long eight years of marriage.

Bird of Paradise- 9th Anniversary: As you can tell by the name, this stunning flower is one of a kind and an amazing choice to celebrate the wonderful nine years of marriage. This flower points towards adventures still to come and all the excitement your love holds.

Daffodil – 10th year anniversary: The magnificent ten years of marriage is an important number to celebrate and the brilliant daffodil flowers are perfect for this occasion.

Roses- 15th Anniversary: Roses are known as passion and romance and it fits perfect to be the flower of 15th wedding anniversary when you have gone through a lot together. You and your spouse deserve this luxury flower by this time so giving red roses to your spouse will show how passionate you are about each other still.

Aster- 20th Anniversary: The elegant aster flower is chosen for the 20th wedding anniversary. This star-like flower is known as symbol of love, patience and fortune. The soft beauty of its beaming petals also represents appreciation of the wisdom you’ve gained together in two decades.

Iris- 25th Anniversary: Iris is a royal flower and after 25 years of marriage it is perfect example to show your spouse how even more special they have become to you for spending so many years together. Celebrate your wonderful 25 years with this luxurious bouquet or an arrangement of these royal purple flowers.

Lily-30th Anniversary: By the 30th anniversary you and your spouse have grown and changed a lot but your commitment to each other is still the same. A bouquet of beautiful lily flower is full of surprises. It comes in many colors and shapes. The magnificent lily will make a bold statement that you still have passion for your spouse.

Gladiolas-40th Anniversary: The wonderful forty years of marriage has a charm of its own. This unique relationship has to be celebrated with the most unique and brilliant gladiola flower. These flowers represent the growth of your amazing memories and experiences that have changed your lives in the long forty years together.

Yellow Roses and Violets- 50th Anniversary: Fifty years of marriage is a unique moment of your life. It should be celebrated the best way possible. As you’ve aged you gained lots of memories experiences and have a special bond together that can never be explained. The special flowers to celebrate 50th anniversary are yellow roses and violets. Together these two flowers look astonishing just like your couple. This is the only anniversary that has two different official flowers for celebration. These elegant flower arrangements will make your celebration even more beautiful and full of love and happiness.

Guide on the Best Wooden 5th Anniversary Gifts for Her

Traditionally, couples would exchange wood gifts for the 5th wedding anniversary. It is to show how much you are appreciating to have made it five years smoothly in the marriage with her. Wood theme anniversary gifts feature a unique wood grain and natural wood smell.The following is a list of the best 11 wooden 5th anniversary gifts for her.

1. Wooden Bed Tray

Wooden bed tray is a great gift for your wife if she has a habit of eating breakfast on the bed. The polished wood` looks luxurious which makes it perfect for pampering your loved one. Even if she don’t eat breakfast on bed, you can buy this tray as a backup. You will find that it comes in handy when one of you becomes sick and has to stay bed. It is this time when you can show that you care by taking appetizing food to your loved one on the tray. The legs of the tray can be folded and use as a regular food serving tray for the guests at your home.

2. Wood Plaque

Engraved wood plaque features a line of touching words that can break down her eyes into tears. It may have a stand at the back for putting on a table or holes for you to hang on the wall. It can be personalized with the couple name to make it look extra special. Wood plaque made from real wood is durable and serve as a memoir for years to come. Some come readily wrapped in a nice box with tissue in it so you don’t have to wrap it yourself.

3. Wood Cutting Board

You can give your wife a custom solid wood cutting board as an anniversary gift if she is the chef that cooks the meals the family. You can have your name or message line etched with laser on the wood surface. If it is too beautiful to be used as a cutting board, you can hang it on the wall of your dining room for decoration. Custom cutting board can be customized in many ways including board size, wood type, lettering style, message line, names and aromatic oil.

4. Wooden Coaster

Wooden coaster is a nice anniversary gift for her if she has a habit of drinking beverage while doing other chores at the same time. She will need a place to put the mug to prevent staining the table. Every time she lifts her cup to drink, she will see the custom message on the coaster. Drink coaster is a great way to remind each other and stay strong in relationship. You can buy one for her and also one for yourself. In this way, both of you will be constantly thinking each other even in the midst of a busy chore.

5. Wooden Keepsake Box

It is a good idea to give her a wooden keepsake box if she has a lot of knick knacks but don’t have a nice box to store them. Every time she put in or take out something from the box, it will bring up the memory of you. Some wooden keepsake boxes has a photo section where you can slide in a photo of your choice. The photo section is perfect for putting in family photos.

6. Wooden Music Box

Wooden music box is a personalized gift that you can give to your loved one to express your affection. You can customize the music that is being played when the box is opened. The nostalgic music will remind your loved one about the nice memories of you spending time with her in the past. The music is always there ready to play when your loved one feel the need to listen to it. It represents a part of your soul as well as your heart as you put in the effort to customize it. The inside of the box is spacious and can be used for storing various kinds of jewelry. Some music boxes can be personalized with a photo that is printed with your message.

7. Wooden Bluetooth Speaker

Wooden bluetooth speaker is the best gift for your significant other if she likes to listen to music. A wooden bluetooth speaker is portable and can be connected to any device that support bluetooth including Android/iOS smartphone and tablet. It is a great gift for someone who is not tech savvy. You can connect it to multiple bluetooth devices and use at a party, campfire or when you are lazing at home. It can be charged with a USB cable and will last for up to 10 hours of continuous music playback

8. Personalized Wooden Phone Case

Doubtless, your spouse will be carrying her smartphone everywhere she goes so giving her a personalized wooden phone case will be the best. The wooden phone case can be customized with the photo of your proposal. You can also customize the phone case with any message you want. The design is engraved on the wood of the phone cover to give it a unique design. The wooden phone case is slim and will not add put additional weight when you are carrying your phone. It not only looks gorgeous but will also keeps your phone safe from external impacts. The surface of the wood may also be treated with natural oil as protection against scratches.

9. Wood Ring

If she loves jewelry, you can buy a wood ring for her. Wood ring features an elegant style polished wood band with the inner part being made from thick tungsten carbide. Although it is cheap, it is durable and can last for long time. The ring has been treated to be both waterproof and scratch proof. It is perfect as a replacement ring if she has to take out the original ring that is more expensive. You can customize the wood ring in many ways including wood type, width and engraving.

10. Bamboo Women Watch

Bamboo women watch is a unique watch that you can give to your wife on the 5th year anniversary. Usually, it also comes with a matching wooden box for storage. Bamboo watch features a wristband that is made from soft and lightweight bamboo. It is comfortable to wear and will not cause any allergy reactions on the skin. Your wife will surely compliment on the unique wood look. If you are looking to buy a bamboo watch, you should look for one with a smaller watch face. They will be more suitable for women who have smaller hand wrists.

11. Wood Planter

If she enjoys gardening, you can buy her a wood planter where she can use to grow her favorite plant. Wood planter is ideal for growing small plants for beginners. The simple wooden box design can add a country style look to your garden. Alternatively, you can plant some plants in the wood planter and give it to her. This is a symbol to show her how much your love have grown for her over the past five years. The wood planter can be put in a garden or on the table as décor.

8 Easy Ways to Be a Better Girlfriend

Being the best girlfriend doesn’t have to be difficult. Simply being trusting, open and focused can go a long way to help you stand out. Let’s take a look at a few things that can help to maintain the happy relationship:

Be trusting

Trust in very important in any relationship. Men aren’t likely to like or appreciate the overly suspicious girlfriend. If you aren’t able to fully trust your partner, you may not be in a relationship with the right person. Try to avoid the type of situations that lead you to searching his phone or questioning his whereabouts. You should instead have faith in your relationship. By showing that you trust your partner there is a much better chance that he will meet your expectations.

Maintain your focus

Don’t get in a position of letting your relationship be the sole focus point in your life. Beyond your relationship, you should also have your own interests and life. Whatever it was that you did before the relationship started is likely to be what made you interesting to your partner in the first place.

Be open and honest

If there is something going on in your life that is concerning you and your partner asks what the problem is, you should simply tell him. Try to let him know what you need and what you think. It will typically benefit to avoid a situation that leaves him making guesses to try to find you what the problem is.

Be attentive

There is a very noticeable difference when it comes to being clingy and being attentive when out and about. It is best to avoid being overly clingy because this will give the impression that you are very needy. If you are in a happy relationship there shouldn’t be any need to prove to others that you are together. Additionally, it is important to avoid flirting with your partner’s friends.

Don’t hassle or argue

Make sure to avoid getting in a situation where you regularly hassle or argue with each other. In most situations the other person will simply tune out when they start to get nagged.

Respect each others space

Most men don’t want to be a constant companion or always be open to discussing their feelings. If you try to discuss his problems when he isn’t ready or want him to be with you all the time, there is a risk that you may simply push him away. It can benefit to simply be patient and leave him the time to start a conversation that relates to private issues. Take things slowly to give the relationship the time it needs to develop naturally.

Don’t attempt to change him

It isn’t likely to help a relationship if you want to change your partner. It is more practical to accept him as he is. If you aren’t happy with things like his occupation, what he says, or the way he dresses, then he isn’t likely to be the right one for you. When you partner accepts you without wanting to make changes, you should be willing to be just as accepting.

Get involved

Be more involved in what interests your partner. Whether it is craft beers, music, sports or politics, you should try to engage with him and at least listen when he talks about his day and what he has been up to.

Are You Relying On Luck To Get What You Want?

When I used to go to various bars and clubs all the time many, numerous years prior, there were regularly men who might discuss how they planned to ‘luck out’. In some cases I knew the general population who might state this and, at different occasions, this was something that I would catch.

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To these men, it was as if they didn’t have any authority about whether or not they would pull in a lady. It was something that was totally out of their hands, which was the reason they needed to luck out.

Another Example

What struck a chord as of late that helped me to remember this time in my life was the point at which I caught wind of somebody who didn’t experience difficulty pulling, yet experienced difficulty taking things further. Thus, it wasn’t that they expected to get fortunate to pull; it was that they expected to get fortunate to have a relationship.

They trusted that once they found the correct individual everything would change. It then not about them doing whatever else, it was only an instance of doing likewise, with the expectation that their fortunes would change.

An Image

When I contemplated the second model, I wound up observing an American roulette wheel. Maybe the individual above had picked a number and was trusting that the ball would arrive on the number they had picked.

There was then nothing intentional about what they were doing, it was basically left to risk. Presently, there are without a doubt people on this planet who have wound up in great relationship, despite the fact that they were hoping to ‘luck out’ before this occurred.

A Big Difference

In any case, despite the fact that this takes put, somebody like this is probably going to be in a better place inwardly, to have diverse convictions, and to carry on in an unexpected way. At last, their inward world will be altogether different, and this implies they will likewise be originating from an altogether different place enthusiastically.

What this comes down to is that what is happening inside somebody bigly affects how they encounter life. As it were, it isn’t feasible for somebody to just watch the world.

Certain Areas

All things being equal, it tends to be typical for somebody to trust that they have command over how well they do in their vocation, for example, however to have an alternate standpoint with regards to their connections. What can have an influence in this is somebody can wind up coming into contact with a similar sort of individual again and again, and they may even invest energy with individuals who have indistinguishable encounters from they do.

This would then be able to be an indication that everybody is the equivalent and their companions can approve this perspective. The issue with this is one wouldn’t take a gander at what is occurring inside them; in this way sitting above the part that they are playing in what is occurring in their life.

Last Thoughts

With the goal for somebody to encountering something, it is going to basic for them to feel safe enough to encounter it. Alongside this, they should feel as if they have the right to involvement to.

In this way, with regards to having a satisfying relationship, for example, one will need to feel safe with drawing near to someone else and as if they merit it. The inconvenience is that on the off chance that somebody doesn’t know about what is occurring inside them and is, along these lines, unconscious of how what is occurring inside them is impacting how they are encountering life, they can wind up feeling weak and trust that something out there is keeping them down.

Educator, Prolific essayist, writer, and mentor, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His sagacious discourse and examination covers all parts of human change, including love, organization, self esteem, and inward mindfulness. With more than one thousand nine hundred inside and out articles featuring human brain science and conduct, Oliver offers trust alongside his sound exhortation.